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How do I get over Anxiety & feeling sorry for myself? No self confidence?

I saw a psychologist for a year for depression & anxiety. I got over the depression. Now I just feel sorry for myself all the time. I got no self confidence. Is there anyway to get over anxiety and low self confidence. I turned down meds. I don’t got to my shrink because he helped me alot. Was wating time and money after awhile seeing him.
19 years old

Hi Andrew! Sorry you are feeling blue. Not sure what is going on in your life to torment you & shake your confidence.

Let me share a story with you that might offer some advice to you. My husband & I own a restaurant. I am not there most of the time, as my husband runs it while I have a full-time job in the meeting planning/wedding planning industry. This past year was difficult for us as we opened the restaurant right when the economy really crashed. We weren’t sure how we were going to pay the bills at this time.

We’ve been blessed to have not only survived a really tough & uncertain time, but we have really thrived. However, there were days in the past year, when the uncertainty of whether we would survive (with the weight of enormous opening expenses weighing on us.)

Here’s what would radically shift my perspective whenever I would feel as though I was carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders: Whenever we would see homeless people, we would take food out to them from the restaurant. We began to build relationships with some of the homeless in our restaurant neighborhood. After every single interaction, I came away feeling less self-absorbed in our pressured reality. My eyes were somehow & suddenly opened to see the whole world outside our 4 walls. So, our 4 walls seemed less confining & prison-like.

This sounds SO simple & possibly even like it wouldn’t do anything. But, before you shrug this off, know this that there is nothing like helping someone else in dire straights to get your mind off yourself and to get you outside of the prison in which we live when we can’t get our minds off of our own circumstances.

So while you might not want to go out & feed the homeless, find a cause. Find something that you feel passionately about and throw yourself into helping other people. When you see that you can make a difference in someone else’s life, you’ll think differently about yourself. I promise.

Hope this helps!
Christine

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